Dating Someone Who Isn’t Your Type
When we first meet ,i was not interested…Even a single possible thing is not common..For weeks i ignored him.I ignored his every attempt of hanging out together.I was going through a hard time of studies…..and a miserable feeling of loneliness and ignorance by my ex partner.I always swiped away his sweet messages.Later on i came to know that he was also struggling to move on by his recent break up.I didn’t want to emotionally connect with him.I thought to myself ….Noooo! …never …he is not my type …There is no single reason to give him a shot.
For the first time in my life ….I met someone different from my type and who approaches me ,someone who would stand out of a lineup of my exes,never afraid of people around him ,cool in behavior ,funny ,intelligent but not dashing enough loll!.
Although he was my senior ,we have quite common platform of studies.He was always ready to teach me my subjects .Not only me ,he was ready for every girl to teach …..hahahha……so that’s was not a special thing to differentiate …..my feelings for him.But at that point of time i was unable to understand how impressed i was by him and was not ready to fall in love again.
Unfortunately, when it comes to matters of the heart, we don’t always know the outcome.
“Never judge a book by its cover”………
Then after a couple of months i thought …. Relationships never worked with a person you like .We are often drawn to partners who feel comfortable to us and have similar values.
If you’ve been attracted to (or attracting) a certain kind of person for a long time and aren’t getting what you want, take a moment to see what your type might be showing you about yourself.
He always contacted me .I don’t know but i was really enjoying the game of communication between us.He became a very well settled friend in my life till then but not partner.
I never get bored with him.Opposites really attracts .
Once i understood this ….the things changed.Then i started loving his differences.I started investing in him emotionally.The more time I spent with him, the more my perception of compatibility expanded.After a few dates, I felt like someone who was colorblind but was now seeing every individual color of the rainbow and each delicate shade in between.And at the same time, I was mad at myself for wasting so much time chasing my insecurities.
Years passed, i feel confused, lonely or insecure after spending time with them.
I started feeling that i have to work for his attention.
By dating someone outside of your type not only has the potential to open up your romantic opportunities, but it challenges you personally and gives you an opportunity to grow within yourself, too.
Because you will not see yourself with them. Date someone who is absolutely not your type because you will be carefree from commitment.
“Being able to date outside your type is quite freeing. It allows you to look at others holistically rather than as a series of ideal qualities and exposes you to a whole new perspective. It can also be really exciting to learn about other ways of living that aren’t informed by our own value systems,”
So giving someone a shot ..who is completely different ,someone you don’t immidietly understand has its own personal life experiences.
I really learnt a lot and enjoyed it .
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